Wednesday, October 17, 2007

These are days to remember

Chris worked late last night, so I picked up the ladies from school, and we went home. As I chopped cucumbers and carrots to dip in salad dressing (for those who didn't want asparagus) the girls colored and did homework, asking me how to spell words and telling me about school that day. Once that was done, they ran outside to ride their bikes in the crisp evening, raking leaves at the neighbor's house and jumping in the pile. They came back in as it got dark, and sat down for dinner, washed their hands with no complaints and no faking and tummies growling from hunger and the smell of roasted turkey that filled the kitchen. The three of us ate dinner together and chatted some more. After dinner, we baked cookies and played chess until it was t.v.time. At bedtime, Abby and I did our nighttime ritual of my stroking her face (but only me, because daddy doesn't do it right) until she drifted off to sleep. I tiptoed in Riley's room, kissed her goodnight, and went downstairs. I snuggled up with Chris and watched "SVU" and we called it a night.

I know not all days can go like this, but it reminded me of when I was a little kid and how my house used to be. I was a happy kid and I want that for the girls. When they're with us, I want them to know that they're at HOME. Where we cook dinner and bake stuff and eat together and we have bedtime rituals and family time and stuff we do to make their little lives less hectic and more stable. Sometimes it may take a little more frustration and patience than I have at that moment, but it's important enough to me to keep trying. Days like yesterday remind me that it's all worth it in the end.

8 comments:

Marissa said...

This post reminded me of snuggling up in a big, cozy blanket. It was so warm and wonderful. I love family more than anything. I love sharing moments like this with my family. This was how my childhood was too - very happy and filled with love and laughter and playfulness. I am so happy that you are bringing that into these girls lives, and they (and Chris) are bringing it into yours!

Mr. Fabulous said...

What a perfect day. Very cool!

-J said...

See, a perfectly nice day and completely boring. :-)

dasi said...

Yup, remember those days Amber - the girls will too, believe me. And when they are tweens or teenagers and making you pull your hair out, look back on those days and remember that THEY USED TO BE SO DARN SWEET!!! It won't make you feel any better but it's nice to remember. And I'm totally kidding. Kind of.

In any case, I'm so happy that you are happy - and did I mention I am trying to win a trip to CO on the radio so I can visit like Cheryl did?? ;)

Alice said...

you know, for going from single to all of a sudden being a mom of 2 girls? you are doing an INCREDIBLE job :-)

Alice said...

ok, i just reread that, and i TOTALLY don't mean for it to be taken like "well, you know, you're doing sort of an OK job, but pretty good for no experience" or something. i do mean: you sound like SUCH A GREAT mom, it's just even more impressive that you found yourself in that situation so suddenly, and you're still so awesome at it

Edge said...

I know what alice is saying. The hardest thing to do is supply a stable home. Kids remember that ... obviously. It's hard work sometimes, but it evens out.

You are doing great it sounds like. Is their mom no where in the picture? It sounds like it.

~Jef

Cheryl said...

It's totally worth it, because it's also the stuff they'll remember. They will always draw on the sense of security and happiness and coziness. I just want to snuggle under a blanket now!