He made me a priority – called when he said he would, and even when he didn’t say he would. Always had time for me – always MADE time for me.
We did nothing, we did everything. We went to dinner, we went to breakfast, we went to the gym, we went to the movies. We went to San Francisco, San Diego, Winter Park, Vail, Breckenridge and a billion places in between. We saw Dave Matthews and Indigo Girls and Sting. He was a chef and I loved to watch him make dinner, concocting delicious things out of whatever was in the fridge.
He taught me that being in a relationship wasn’t all about me. That I should want to take care of the person that I’m with but to also let myself be taken care of.
Valentine’s Day was a day for flowers, but so were Tuesdays or Wednesdays. He always remembered that I don’t like red roses and that I love Gerbera daisies.
I have the physical remnants of that relationship – a diamond bracelet, necklaces, clothes, sand from the beach in San Diego, matchbooks from our favorite restaurants. Memories.
Whenever I told him I loved him, he always said “I love you more”. And he did – he loved me more than anyone ever has and now I know what it’s like to be loved like that. He told me that I should always be with someone who loves me more.
And because of him, my standards are higher. I’ve had the kind of love I want and because of that, I know it’s out there. That’s why I always have hope. Even after all of the ridiculous excuses for dates I’ve been on in the two years since he and I broke up, I know that there is someone out there who will love me more.
I know because he loved me more.
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wait. are we the same person?
It's crapastic to quote myself and somewhat narsarcissitic in a My Space way but suck it.
"If you have a quarter inch of something, if even for a brief moment, you have a better chance of holding on to somehting real that's worth fighting for."
My mother is always telling me to stop looking for perfect and just look for Mr. Good Enough. I know what she's means by saying this but all the reason's you listed is why Mr. Good Enough simply won't do.
Happy Valentines Day Amber. Here's to hoping you find your Manber soon.
Don't you dare lower your standards! I won't let you. There are other guys out there like that, but there is NO ONE like you. Go get what you want and don't accept less!
GNDTX
You can have it all. And "all" doesn't look the same for every person, so hold out for your own definition.
Amen! You shouldn't settle because you deserve someone who loves you more. Way to keep the faith.
I just don't get people who settle. And I wouldn't expect any less from you! ;) He's out there - somewhere... drunk, maybe?? HA!
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I think I had it once, too. A long, long time ago. I think. I was too young and stupid to realize how rare it was.
I know how you feel. Don't settle. I did once and you know how that turned out for me.
That's beautiful! Isn't it a wonderful, "healthy" feeling to be in that place, looking back at the dating wreckage strewn behind?
Look at my little optimist - I'm so proud of you for knowing what you want...and deserve.
WHAT THE effin FREAK!!!
How come Im just now hearing about this guy... for months now I've been hanging on your everyword 'bout
History boy
Not date boy
Neighbor who's kid likes your kitties
Now... now Im hearing bout this guy??
Oh oh this is going to take therapy and at least 2... thas right... count them 2 Postings!!!! (not counting this one)
I want details
when u met
why u broke it off
how in the heck could there be another perfect man out there... obviiously he's danish
Two post Amber!!!
TWO!!!
and a call from Dr. Phil
two
Amazing post!!!! Simply amazing.
Happy Valentines Day!
xoxoxo
Oh Romeo, you do not know what it is you've begun, the tale is so full of intrigue.
I vote for two entries based on Charles in Charge episodes, or, as the Beastie Boys (love them) refer to it: Chachi in Charge (sp?).
Happy Valentine's Day, Amber!
Do not ever settle. Do not ever lower your standards. And do not ever lose hope. You DO deserve someone who will love you more. And it WILL happen for you.
I didn't always believe that, until it happened for me. And I know from my own three years of post-almost-perfect-long-term-relationship dating experience that it's rough out there, and that there are a lot of toads. But it's worth it when you finally find your prince -- and it's all that much sweeter because of the heartaches that, in the end, brought you to each other.
Two... not gunna say it again... Parts One and Parts Deux!
en
and
to
(^Danish)
Nice post, and you will find a love like that again. Happy Valentine's Day.
I settled once, it wasn't pretty
that would be one plus antoher one...
like... you do one and write,,, to be continued... then the next day you finsh it
two
Every word of this post is so right.
don't settle...nobody should settle...and you're sooooo smart for knowing that you don't have to! mwah!!
LOL rico... I could soooooo see that!
anyway.. your lack of posting today obviously means you're working on this TWO PART His story epic
I can wait
is it done yet?
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