Thursday, August 18, 2005

By Popular Demand...

...I bring you Bachelor #2.

I was on the dating website one day, and I got an email. It said “Do you or did you work at Acme?” (which is, obviously, not the company's real name). It freaked me out a little, because Acme is the place where we lease space, and it is HUGE. Who on earth would know me enough to recognize me from a picture, but not enough to talk to me when I'm at work? I looked closer at the picture, and figured it out.

When we moved in, we had a lot of cubicle rearranging to do. We have floor to ceiling cubes with doors, and so it’s quite the process to move stuff. This guy – let’s call him Construction Boyfriend – was one of the contractors who did the moving. Because we had so much to do, he was around a lot. We got to be friends because he was cute and SO funny. He would do extra stuff for us, and Marlene would buy him beer. He figured me out right away, and used to tease me about how high maintenance I was. Anyway, he had recently started his own construction business, and so once summer rolled around, he left and went to work for himself. That was almost three years ago.

I replied, and we went out for beers that weekend. It was awesome, because we sat and talked forever and there was never any awkwardness. We laughed a lot and it was really as if no time had passed. It was a great evening, which ended with us hanging out at my house, drinking beer, talking and listening to music until we were both almost asleep. Ever the gentleman, when he left, he kissed me on the forehead and covered me with a blanket.

So we started talking more. Unlike some people, he is a phone person and likes to talk every day. He calls me and returns my calls promptly and we always have stuff to talk about. I can tell him the stupidest stories about my day – and believe me, I have a lot of stupid stories – and he really listens and he laughs and gives me a hard time if I deserve it. It’s a fine line, you know – funny hard time vs. mean hard time – and he’s never mean.

He makes me laugh. He’s tall. He works really hard. He is so sweet. He fixes stuff and builds stuff, and I love that. He’s a strong person, but not to the point where he won’t accept help if he needs it. I know a lot about him, because he always answers my questions and he tells me all kinds of stuff. Even, sometimes, secrets. When he hugs me, he lays his cheek on the top of my head. He tells me I look cute in a baseball hat and my glasses. He’s a music geek like I am, and when I played him a recording of me singing, he asked me for a copy because he thinks it’s “soothing.” He doesn’t get annoyed when I get excited about watching “Tommy Boy” for the first time in years and keep blurting out lines from the movie and then apologizing. He’ll drive an hour to see me at 9 on a Friday night, on the spur of the moment, because he wants to see me. He’ll drive an hour to see me on a Sunday night after he’s been at a wedding extravaganza in the mountains all weekend and is totally hung over, but he wants to see me and because he told me before he left that we’d do something on Sunday when he got back. So obviously, he follows through and is true to his word.

I know. Doesn’t he sound great? He really is. The catch is that I don’t know whether he wants this to be a “girlfriend” situation or a “girl friend” situation. I’m not going to ask him, because I’m not that girl who always has to have the “where are we” talk after like a month, and because I know that he has stuff going on in his life that takes priority over me or us. And that’s fine. For now, I just like spending time with him and no matter what ends up happening, I’m happy that he’s in my life.

31 comments:

Stephanie said...

Oh he sounds fantastic! How fun! Nice guy who follows through and is true to his word? Could it be? Let's clone him and make all sorts of Boyfriend #2's!

Stephanie said...

... I stand corrected. Bachelor #2.

Timmortal said...

Nice, he sounds like a good man. Dont f it up. Just kidding. Play it cool and see how it turns out. I cant wait to find out. Oooohhhh....

dasi said...

Are you sure this guy really exists?? How come all the interesting men seem to be in Colorado?? I'm thinking a cross-country move may be in my future! lol

Good luck with this guy - and keep us posted!

Rico said...

Folks, I think we have a winner!

Trust me - you will know if he wants you as a "girlfriend" or a "girl/friend" without having to have the talk.

You'll just know.

Thomas said...

You should have the "where are we" talk. But in a funny way.

Something like, "I need to know if we are going to get married in the next year because my dad wanted to take an around-the-world trip that lasts a whole year."

The Husband said...

this guy has potential.

Cheryl said...

I think Bechelor #2 sounds like a keeper. He definitely wins.

Oh, and last night I got all excited to watch Wayne's World after years of not seeing it. Totally cracked me up.

Miladysa said...

Can we move him up to First Place please? :)

Kiki said...

Your stuck between a rock and hard place in asking the where are we question.

It sounds like he's into you way more than a friend. And he sounds great.

Steph said...

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Kendra said...

I totally endorse Bachelor #2...mostly because I know all the deets. And because, as one of your best friends, I can safely safe that he makes you genuinely happy, sans anxiety. For this reason alone, I heart Bach #2. :)

Alice said...

yay! bach #2 sounds delightful. and i agree... no need to push the "where are we" talk. i think rico's right.. you'll know if he wants to be a boyfriend and not a boy friend :-)

Hope said...

You sound way more excited about bachelor #2 than History Boy, and I have to agree with everyone that there's no need to have "the talk," you'll just know.

Marie said...

Oh, I really like Bachelor #2. He sounds like a good man...you're obviously very compatible...you enjoy each other. I understand the whole fine line as to whether it's a "gf" or "girl friend" situation...maybe time will tell as you continue to spend time with each other? It sounds like it's headed in that direction. I hope so! :)

Thomas said...

All us commenters can make Amber's choice a little easier by arranging for bachelor #1 to have a little accident.

Stephanie said...

Thomas... you truly have been a bright spot it my day. Oh how you make me laugh!

I do agree with Thomas. Let's formulate this plan.

allison said...

*ding ding ding ding ding*

WE HAVE A WINNER FOLKS!

Marissa said...

Two words for you "girlfriend situation." I definitely think so! He sounds AMAZING! Can you clone him, for me?!?!

trish said...

This is a book. I swear it cant be real. Shit like this doesnt exist...well, at least not in my life...*sigh

Bstermyster said...

I love Tommy Boy and here are some facts i learned after noticing some Tommy Boy references in 50 First Dates:

http://mitchellsbabyblogger.blogspot.com/2005/07/tommy-boy-50-first-dates-what-do-they.html

Not to change the subject or anthing.

He does sound like a winner.

beckibee said...

Ambular,

Fun to catch up on your antics! Talk to you soon. BB

Thomas said...

I wonder if Amber has a another bachelor behind door #3 that she will be telling us about on Monday.

karla said...

Man, I gotta meet this guy! Can you give me his number?

Thomas said...

Looks like cat fight. (to quote an old SNL routine)

The Husband said...

amber...just to clarify- you are officially invited to the FTMOCS convention. details to follow! feel free to bring bachelor #2 if you want...or i'll be your date!

Van! said...

I wanna be number #3!

nic said...

"If it seems too good to be true ..."

(I SO didn't want to be the one to say that)

Enjoy him while you can.

Ariel1980 said...

He sounds so much better than History nerd! Way to go!

... jacek ... said...

Haha, I was seeing this chick who was always busy. Long story short, I got fed up and stopped calling her, but I know exactly where your coming from, this dude sounds like normal human being, and those are always nice to find. Good luck with it, and I likes your blog.


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